Self Seduction....are you seducing yourself?
As I reflect on how I spent my Saturday night which may have looked like a suicidal attempt or a scene from a Danielle Steel novel. I over analyzed and questioned my self worth. How I value myself, others around me and the men who are coming and going like the latest diet craze or fashion trends.
As I filled up the bath tub, which I rarely do because I am obviously too busy to relax (or so I think)...I ran around the house gathering all the necessities...candles check, lighter check, music check, wine check, bubbles...yep! You would have thought I was well on my way to seducing my latest catch and setting myself up for what could have been the ultimate "Honey I'm home scene from a cheesy porn", when in fact, there were no visitors, just myself and my obvious audience, the three pups that will not leave my side for a minute. I drank too many glasses of wine, almost caught my hair on fire, wrinkled up like a prune, listened to sad songs...that yes, as Billy Ocean said best "will make you cry....love songs often do", and for no one else....just ME! Although I intoxicated myself and cried to a Keisha Cole song and spent my entire Saturday night in the bath tub...I did it for me. I never stop and take time for me anymore, to do the simple things that make me happy or just simply get away from my blackberry and texting long enough to .....breathe! Why would I expect someone else to do that for me in return if I won't do it for myself?
For those of you who know me, you are aware that I am a serial dater....none really get to stay around long enough to make an impression without me finding something wrong with them or declaring myself to be a Madonna and Oprah...just not the marrying type! I keep expecting for a man to come along and sweep me off of my feet when in fact, I have no idea what it would take for that to happen, so how would I recognize it if it did? Which leads me to my point of "Self Seduction". Ladies, if we are not taking the time to love every inch of our bodies...even the boob that's a little smaller than than the other, your eyebrows that are not perfectly arched, your lips that are not quite Angelina pouty, your butt that looks more like a sad face than the ever seducing apple bottom, and that little pooch that never goes away no matter how many crunches and hip hop ab videos you do......than why would a man be willing to see past all of that to get to what really matters...your heart!
Self seduction is simply loving yourself and taking care of YOU! Whatever it may be that you enjoy doing, take time to do it. Whoever it may be that makes you laugh, talk to them. Whoever it may be that needs a laugh, make them smile! In the whole grand scheme of things, what really matters is loving you for you, holding out that helping hand, and trying to be a better person, not what the bitch in the cube next to you thinks, or the ex boyfriend, or that skinny bitch with perfect Farrah Fawcett hair (may she rest in peace).....its YOU! I challenge everyone to like you a little more each day and do something for yourself!
As I reflect on how I spent my Saturday night which may have looked like a suicidal attempt or a scene from a Danielle Steel novel. I over analyzed and questioned my self worth. How I value myself, others around me and the men who are coming and going like the latest diet craze or fashion trends.
As I filled up the bath tub, which I rarely do because I am obviously too busy to relax (or so I think)...I ran around the house gathering all the necessities...candles check, lighter check, music check, wine check, bubbles...yep! You would have thought I was well on my way to seducing my latest catch and setting myself up for what could have been the ultimate "Honey I'm home scene from a cheesy porn", when in fact, there were no visitors, just myself and my obvious audience, the three pups that will not leave my side for a minute. I drank too many glasses of wine, almost caught my hair on fire, wrinkled up like a prune, listened to sad songs...that yes, as Billy Ocean said best "will make you cry....love songs often do", and for no one else....just ME! Although I intoxicated myself and cried to a Keisha Cole song and spent my entire Saturday night in the bath tub...I did it for me. I never stop and take time for me anymore, to do the simple things that make me happy or just simply get away from my blackberry and texting long enough to .....breathe! Why would I expect someone else to do that for me in return if I won't do it for myself?
For those of you who know me, you are aware that I am a serial dater....none really get to stay around long enough to make an impression without me finding something wrong with them or declaring myself to be a Madonna and Oprah...just not the marrying type! I keep expecting for a man to come along and sweep me off of my feet when in fact, I have no idea what it would take for that to happen, so how would I recognize it if it did? Which leads me to my point of "Self Seduction". Ladies, if we are not taking the time to love every inch of our bodies...even the boob that's a little smaller than than the other, your eyebrows that are not perfectly arched, your lips that are not quite Angelina pouty, your butt that looks more like a sad face than the ever seducing apple bottom, and that little pooch that never goes away no matter how many crunches and hip hop ab videos you do......than why would a man be willing to see past all of that to get to what really matters...your heart!
Self seduction is simply loving yourself and taking care of YOU! Whatever it may be that you enjoy doing, take time to do it. Whoever it may be that makes you laugh, talk to them. Whoever it may be that needs a laugh, make them smile! In the whole grand scheme of things, what really matters is loving you for you, holding out that helping hand, and trying to be a better person, not what the bitch in the cube next to you thinks, or the ex boyfriend, or that skinny bitch with perfect Farrah Fawcett hair (may she rest in peace).....its YOU! I challenge everyone to like you a little more each day and do something for yourself!
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